Pandemic Stories | 2020 | England’s First Lockdown

The Government Lockdown Rules Stopped Me Seeing My Fiancée During the Pandemic in 2020

As two widowed parents living apart, we were not allowed to go near each other

Alan AJ
4 min readMar 15, 2023


Notes saying Stay Home, Be Safe, Keep Your Distance, Don’t Go Out!
Photo by Sarah Kilian on Unsplash

Living apart

During the last 9 years, there have been numerous times when my “living apart together” relationship has not been officially recognised.

My car breakdown service covers a spouse/partner at no extra cost — but you both have to live at the same address.

So for all the years when Stephanie, my fiancée, used my second car, I had to pay for a separate breakdown service. It wasn’t a large amount, but it was annoying.

Car insurance was another example. When I added Stephanie as a named driver, they asked how we were related. But the only suitable choice in their list was “not related”.

After years of those kinds of experiences, I learned to stop worrying about other people’s opinions.

But I was not ready for how it would affect us in 2020.

First lockdown

Here in England, we went into national lockdown on the evening of 23 March 2020 — the…



Alan AJ

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